No no, Babies.

Words are forever growing in a toddlers world. Every day something new comes out of that little tiny mouth of theirs. It’s astounding how much they can remember and repeat. Did I mention repeat? I don’t know about anybody else, but Braden is a repeater. I’m going to go as far and say that he is an OCD repeater. He actually kind of reminds me of myself in this sense. I get latched onto a term or phrase and will repeat it any chance I get. I guess it’s not one of my best qualities Braden has received from me 😉

I can’t even begin to count how many words he knows, I think at almost 2 years old it’s common to lose count. At least I hope so…

Anyway, I’ve got a repeater, and it’s pretty funny some of the things that come out of his mouth! For some time now Braden has adopted the very interesting phrase… “No no, babies” and “Hey, babies”. For the longest time I could not for the life of me figure out where it was coming from. I mean, he had to learn that somewhere…right? No 2 year old walks around saying, “Hey, babies!”. Does he even know what a baby is?! Is he flirting? Does he know how to flirt? And why does he always have to tell these “babies” no?

But, finally! I figured it out! Every week Braden has swimming lessons at Waterbabies with Miss Vanessa. Miss Vanessa is the best! She’s been teaching Braden how to swim for over a year now, and we just love her. She’s calm, patient, understanding and always welcomes the babies into her class with a “Hey, babies!”.

A-HA! That was it. That’s all it took…one day a week for over a year and he randomly became obsessed. And I mean, obsessed. Literally everything he says somehow comes back to these “babies”. I will even hear him talking to himself in his car seat, all scruffy ” no no, babies”. It’s hysterical. Like, he’s trying to reason with these imaginary babies…”No no, babies!”.

I don’t know how long these phrases will stick around, but I know one thing is for sure, I’m not ready to say goodbye to them. It’s so much apart of who he is right now. I know when it’s run its course, that means he’s grown up just a little bit more. And I’m definitely not ready for that.

I hope I always remember this season.

I love you babies 😉

Your mama xoxo

(23 months)

  

No no, Babies.

Draw with me Mommy

Braden loves to draw. And not just sporadically – daily. I know that if we are going out to eat I should bring paper and markers. The color wonder paper and markers have been a dream to me. If you don’t know what they are, then I highly suggest you look it up. The only problem I have with them, is that sometimes my son will take a bite right off the tip and then exclaim, “uh-oh”…as if he doesn’t know how that happened! But anyway…back to drawing.

My son doesn’t care to watch TV for more than 10 minutes at a time. Which sounds really great on paper, but when you’re in a bind and need to get dressed – 10 minutes isn’t going to cut it! He likes to hop around and do different activities. And he really is quite great at playing by himself. But lately, he’s been asking me to draw with him. It’s nothing new, but the frequency and insistence on doing so has grown. I’m more than likely always about to do something that keeps me from being able to draw with him. He never seemed to really mind when I told him I had other things to do first. But today, today was the day I saw a little sadness wash over his face when I told him I had to dry my hair.

His little arms went so quickly to his side, he turned around, faced the table and hung his head towards his toes. My heart felt sad. He felt defeated. I could tell. He, with the sweetest face and innocent eyes looking up at me to draw. And I said no, for the hundredth time.

I’ve never dried my hair so quickly in my life. At some point during the hair drying process he ran into my room and shut the door. Frustrated with me I’m sure. He never said a word, but he didn’t have to. I just turned on the baby monitor and watched him as he had his moment to himself. After I was finished, I put the hair dryer away. Just as I was getting ready to walk in my room to get him, he came barreling out of the room in rush. He had the biggest grin on his face as he reached up to touch my hair and said, “dry!”. I’m smiling now just thinking about it. How much he knows and is aware of is still a shock to me. His little brain is this huge sponge that just takes everything in. I love it. I love him.

And so after I told him yes, my hair was dry and we can draw now. We did. I sat on the chair that is about as big as my hand, and drew and drew and drew. It was then followed by a tickle fight and lots of kisses. I wish every day could be this sweet and simple. I hope that I always remember to take the time to draw, because what could possibly be more sweet and simple than that?

I love you my buddy!

(21 months old)

xoxo

Your mama

Draw with me Mommy

A midnight snack 

I had every intention as a new mom for Braden to sleep in his own bed. We bought the crib (off Craiglist) and had everything set up, ready to go. Even after attending one of those baby classes, his dad and I rushed home to remove the bumper… Because those were not allowed. We were ready. I was ready.

But, Braden had other plans. Braden did not want to sleep in his crib. He did not even want to sleep in his cradle. He didn’t want to sleep anywhere other than being cradled in the arms of anybody. 

I can remember the first night home from the hospital so vividly. His dad and I unable to sleep… And of course Braden crying. We had heard about the amazingness of a sound machine. I invested in one, and at about 10pm, the first night home we plugged it in. I remember Bradens dad holding Braden up to the machine, as if that in of itself would make him go to sleep. I am able to laugh at this image now, but at the time my hormones and emotions were all over the place, and i snuggled Braden back into my arms on the couch in the den. And there I slept for 2 whole months – with Braden safe and sound on my chest. I became the granola mom I never thought I would be.

Let’s flash forward to 20 months later. Currently, Braden is safe and sound asleep next to me in bed. If he had his way, he’d still be nestled ontop of my chest, in the crook of my arm,  or a hand tangled into my hair. He loves to snuggle. “Gungle” as he calls it. I do not. I’ve learned to love it, because that’s what my son loves. Remember, I’m a granola mom now 🙂 But, if I had my way, Braden would be safe and sound asleep in his own bed or crib in his room…

Well, that may not be all true. You see, as a mom to a very loving, sweet, sensitive and snuggly child, I’ve learned to be all of those things. Not necessarily to everyone in my life, but most certainly to him. It became this natural instinct of mine that I have embraced fully. But, that’s not to say I’m not looking forward to him sleeping on his own – because I am. But, I will be patient. I truly believe there will be a time where he lets me know, that he’s ready. So, until that moment happens we will sleep side by side. A snuggle here and there. A held hand here and there. How could I deny him such sweet and innocent gestures of love? 

Sometimes he’ll wake before I’m ready to jump into bed. I hear him rustling through the monitor, and then I see him sit up in bed. A slightly distressed, “mommy”, is called out. Eyes squinting… Barely open. I quietly enter the room and remind him I’m still here. That everything is okay. And whisper to him to lay back down on his pillow. I slowly crawl into bed with him and rub his little head. He nestles in warmly Inbetween our 2 pillows, holding out his hand for me to hold. And when I do, I see the tiniest form of a smile and a little sigh of relief – eyes still shut. I watch this feeling of comfort take over him. His little piece of a midnight snack. He feels safe. And that, makes it all worth it. 

I love you my little man, 

Your mommy xoxo 



A midnight snack 

Morning walks

Just like that, things change. It happens so fast that you can’t even remember what it was like before. I started this blog because I wanted to remember. Remember those little moments that you think you’re going to always hold on to, but life happens and so you forget. And life does happen my friends. In a blink of an eye your child does or says something new and you grasp onto the moment, overjoyed. But, it’s short lived because there is always something new – and you’re constantly jumping to the next moment. And not to mention…I’m so tired ya’ll. It’s not a “my baby was up all night” tired. It’s just an exhausting life of swimming lessons, gymnastics class, play time, down time, reading time, eating, drinking and bedtime. Plus being mom with work, family, friends, relationships and you time that takes up space in this world that you just want to be filled with your little one.

So, with all of the hustle and bustle I’ve started to make a bigger effort in capturing those every day moments. Because I know when I look back at Braden’s life, it’s those moments I’m going to wish I had pictures of. Recently, Braden and I have started a tradition of going for a walk around the block. It was his idea 🙂 We start in the backyard, he plays in the dirt for awhile – watering his garden. It seems as though every time I go inside for a drink of water, he’s made his way around the side of the house, waiting at the gate to go out front. He explains to me that the trash (“ash”) cans are right next to the gate. I open the gate, he goes straight to the door on the side of the house and says “up”. I know this “up” means he wants me to lift him up to open the door, and then key in the code to open the garage. He wobbles his little legs around the side to watch the garage open. He grabs his supplies: car(s), t-ball, balls and lawn mower. Sometimes he meanders with Papa’s tools, but I always hope that part is short lived. He pushes his car around (mostly plays with the buckle “uckle”), plays with his balls, and sets himself down on the curb. I’m not sure why, but he really enjoys sitting on the curb 🙂

After that, we make our way down to the mailbox. He tells me all about where the keys go, reaching far up on his tippy toes before he takes off down the street onto the next stop.

This is where Braden spends most of his time. Playing with the leaves and throwing them over the curb. I love letting him do his thing. Before long he’s back up running up the hill. He stops along the way to gather some pine cones. Sometimes we bring our car along and he’ll put them in the front of the car. This time we were carless, and he enjoyed throwing the pine cones over the curb and onto the street. As we head back to the house, Braden stops a few times to tell me about his “dirty” feet. They do in fact get a bit dirty…but it just kills me how much he cares about it. I guess he’s going to be one of those kids that has to wear shoes – thanks dad 😉

I don’t know how long he’ll want to do these walks, but I’m going to savor them every morning. Gosh, I love him so much.

19 months old and counting!

I LOVE YOU,

your mommy

ps. please note I am no longer “mama” but “mommy” and sometimes on occasion just “mom” – the worst! :/

Morning walks

My little water baby

Braden has been in swimming lessons for about 8 months now. He truly loves the water. I was a little apprehensive at first because his first swim experience went awful. He did not do well at the first swim school he went to. I think it was a little overwhelming for him as there were so many other lessons going on at one time – equaling loud noises. But, we switched over to Waterbabies Swim School in San Clemente, and could NOT be happier! He has grown so much as a swimmer; more confident and so incredibly happy. When the opportunity came up to have an underwater photo shoot, I jumped at the chance! What a great time to get some amazing pictures of him swimming under the water that I would not otherwise be able to get. Plus, I’m a sucker for a photoshoot 😉

I don’t think my words could ever do justice of how special this photo shoot was. Braden was at the happiest I’ve seen him (which is hard to top since he’s pretty happy all the time). I rushed home with such joy and excitement in my heart. I gushed to my mom of how amazing this experience was. For days I talked about how excited I was about getting to see this photos that I just knew would turn out ridiculously good. Unfortunately, things did not go as planned…Our photographer, Mike Morse (who was great by the way) had just got a new camera/lens and somehow was put on the wrong setting for our shoot. He was so sweet to offer a free session next time – which I will definitely be doing. But, I was still disappointed in the outcome of the shots. I know things happen, and it was truly an accident but I could not shake how bummed I was. I didn’t even want to post any of the images because they didn’t come out as good as I had hoped.

As the days went on, I kept thinking about that day and how much fun Braden and I both had. I found myself smiling with happy tears in my eyes. And then I realized, it’s okay that the photos didn’t turn out. It’s the memory I have of this day that I will treasure and remember for the rest of my life. I will never get the image out of my mind of how truly ecstatic Braden was during the whole thing. For some of the shots Braden’s swim teacher was standing on one end of the pool, me on the other, and the photographer in between us to the side. Everything had to be timed perfectly to get the right shot. Mike would cue the swim teacher – he would go under – she would count to 3 – then tell Braden his cue words (“Braden, ready go”) – then they would go under – then I would go under. I would then be waiting, with the biggest smile on my face, for my little man to swim underwater into my arms. This perfect little boy would swim his little arms, smiling from ear-to-ear, all the way over to me. Like I said, my words could never do it justice, it’s the feeling in my heart of complete and utter joy I saw coming from my son that I will hold onto forever. So, that is why I am sharing these pictures. I don’t ever want to forget this special day.

Thank you Waterbabies and Mike Morse – I look forward to many more swim lessons and underwater photo shoots!

I love you,

your mama xo

My little water baby

The sweetest moment

Every night before I go to bed I creep in to Braden’s room. I love to tuck him back underneath his blanket, rub his hair, kiss his forehead and then I whisper, “I love you” into his ear. Tonight – for the first time, he said, “I love you” back to me. He says it throughout the day if I ask him to say it. But this was the first time he did it just in response to me. Who knows if he was sleep talking or really meant it. Doesn’t matter – my heart just melted. And I want to remember this moment forever. Good night my sweet little man. You will forever hold my heart in your hands. I love you so very much.

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I love you,
Your mama xo

The sweetest moment

Fall? Is that you?

Fall is slowly creeping up and I can not be more excited about it. The holidays are fast approaching and this year is even more exciting since Braden is kind of getting the idea what’s going on. The house is decorated for Halloween – I’ve never seen anyone so thrilled to play with the gazillion pumpkins around the house.


We had a Halloween party with all of his friends…it is so fun to see them grow and engage in each other so much. Braden still has this awesome love for people, and you can see it in his smile. He also still loves to hug and kiss everyone. I feel bad for some of the little girls he wants to hug because most of them don’t like it! They run away crying – poor guy!

He spends a couple days a week with his dad having some pretty awesome adventures. They’ve been to the children’s museum, plane watching at the airport, parks and endless fun at the beach. I was lucky to be there for a beach walk the other day. Braden is such a beach bum! He really loves running into the water, getting his feet – even if it means taking a tumble.


Braden’s consistent words are mama, daddy, grandma, papa, bye bye, night night, hi, dog, duckie and a mash up of “iloveyou”. If you ask his dad, he’d probably say he says about 15 words…but I just think he’s hearing things 😉 Most of everything is nananananana?! He really tries to communicate with you, looking at you with such a question mark on his face, or a look of excitement. I cannot wait for a huge paragraph to fly out of his mouth. I am most certain I will just melt.
He knows where his tongue, teeth, mouth, nose, ears, eyes, hair, knees, belly button, hands, feet and toes are. He just recently became obsessed with blinking his eyes. So don’t be worried if he’s just blinking out of control!
He knows what an owl and a bird says, and he can hear a plane, motorcycle and helicopter from a million miles away. He will hear and see it before anyone else can. It’s kind of crazy how good his eye and ears are. He now understands that ears are for hearing and so when he hears these sounds he points his hand to his ear to “tell” you he hears something. It’s so cute. It’s even cuter because it’s not really something I intentionally taught him, just something he caught on to. Much like when he just knows to throw trash away. I never specifically taught him, he just really wanted to do it on his own. It’s true what they say – they learn from seeing and doing.
Which is also scary because I hope he doesn’t pick up any bad habits!!
Braden loves to go down his slide, play with his water table, walk to the mailbox to check the mail and “mow the lawn”. I love that the playing pretend phase is starting to come out. He’s becoming more and more fun. I just can’t believe how much they grow in a year. I’ve never been so proud to be a mom – his mom. I love obsessing over costumes, what crafts to make, planning play dates, finding the next adventure to go on, and of course the clothes.

As Braden is growing up right in front of my eyes, I can’t help but hope that I am doing a good job. I want to provide the life for him that he deserves and I’ve never been more certain that, that is my purpose in this life. I’ve had many dreams and goals to obtain but being Braden’s mom trumps all of that. The fulfillment of seeing his smile when he’s accomplished something new – will alway beat out any dream I have. He’s my little Braden. My son.
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I LOVE YOU!
mama
xox

Fall? Is that you?

Goodbye Summer? (Part 1)

Wow! I can’t believe how long it’s been since I’ve last updated my blog. So much has happened, and yet everything is still the same. Once Braden started walking…everything in our world shifted. I am not sure I really ever have a moment to sit down. Which is why by the time he’s in bed for the night, all I want to do is sit down and relax with a glass of wine. All of a sudden summer has ended and I realized I’ve let too much time pass without any updates. I know it’s such a mere 6 weeks, but Braden changes so much every day – and my mind is forgetting so much every day. Let’s see if I can start where I left off…


This summer has been a blast! Braden started in a swimming school he really loves. It’s been so fun to see him grow as a swimmer. Just last week his teacher mentioned how she thinks he’s going to be really good swimmer. He’s already started swimming from the step, and able to guide his feet to the bottom of the step to pull himself up if he happens to fall under water. I am so proud of him.

His dad, my sister and I took him to Disneyland – oh my gosh. It is just as exhausting as it was to take him when he was 6 months old. He definitely appreciated it a little bit more, but I think when we take him during Christmas time he’s going to be ridiculously excited to see Mickey. He loves watching Mickey Mouse Clubhouse every morning. He only gets about 15 minutes of TV time so I can wake up, then we’re off and raring to go. But for those 15 minutes, he LOVES it…and of course his stuff Mickey Mouse. It’s really cute to watch how much he loves him.

His dad and I took him on his first boat ride! I wasn’t sure how he was going to be. He gets very scared and nervous really quickly…but thank goodness he LOVED it. We were down in San Diego, and we took the ferry boat from Coronado over to Downtown SD. It was about a 15 minute boat ride – long enough to enjoy, but short enough just incase of any scared meltdowns :). He had his excited smile on his face the whole entire time. It warmed my heart to see him enjoy it so much. I cannot wait until we get to take him on a real boat ride to Catalina! Maybe next summer.

We’ve had some beach days, play days, lazy days, pool days, and busy days. Splash pads, malls, merry-go-rounds, swings, trains, ferris wheels, boats, pools and slides filled our Summer days. As we say goodbye to Summer and hello to Fall (although it’s the biggest heatwave of the year right now, so Fall doesn’t seem anywhere in sight), I am so looking forward to the Holidays. Is it too early to start putting together Braden’s costumer??

…to be continued…
I love you my pumpkin little!!!
your mama xoxo

Goodbye Summer? (Part 1)

Growing up is hard to do…

As I write this a dear friend of mine is on her way to the hospital to meet her new baby girl. I can’t help but feel nostalgia (again) for the birthing of my little man Braden. I feel jealous that she gets to experience this miracle. I don’t often think about the day Braden was born. But when I do, it is with such a heavy heart.
Braden is my miracle baby. Miracle in such a way, I’m not sure how he even made it to this world in one (healthy) piece. I often think about his sister that didn’t make it. Does he feel an emptiness that something (somebody) is missing? Most likely not, but I can’t help but feel this guilt that she’s not here for him. When I see him playing by himself I get this nagging feeling that she should be here to play alongside him. Truth be told, she didn’t make it long enough to know for sure she was in fact a she. But in my heart I feel he had a sister.
Questions often pop up in my mind; what would she look like, would they act the same, be best friends? Just a list of unanswered questions. It doesn’t plague me every day as it once did, but…
I think this is why I protect Braden with every ounce I have inside of me. I feel incredibly blessed that he made it. I was so nervous throughout the rest of my pregnancy that I wouldn’t get to meet him… But I did.
And I’ve spent the last 13 1/2 months with Braden. Not just with him… But WITH him. I’ve never spent more than 8 hours away from him. And as excited as I am for this next chapter in his life, I am really anxious.
It’s beyond time for him to embrace the other half of his life with his dad. And I’m so grateful that his dad has been understanding to fulfill goals of mine, such as nursing Braden for a full year, and patient enough to let me feel ready for this new chapter in Braden’s life.
It’s bittersweet to let go of Braden’s hand and watch someone else take the lead. I’ve been the soul protector since he was growing inside of my belly. And I’m not going to lie, it’s going to be hard…
But it’s time to let Braden grow up just a little bit more, and experience every aspect of his life that he can.
So many great “dad” adventures await him.
So many things to learn that only a dad can teach.
So many man-to-man chats to be had.
So many sleepless nights of laughter, junk food to devour, and dirty hands to never be washed.
Oh Braden I love you so, and will miss you on the nights you’re away.
I hope you will miss me in just the right amount. And I hope you’ll be ready for Eskimo kisses and mommy cuddles when you come back to me. I’ll be waiting for you my button.

Love you so manys!
Xoxo
Your mama

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Growing up is hard to do…

I did it!

After 13 months of nursing I can officially say I am done. It’s a bittersweet feeling. But in the end, I’m ready to move on from this chapter in my life. It was a really important goal of mine to nurse Braden for a full year, with zero supplement from formula. And I did it. I can’t believe It… But I did! It was a really rough first couple of months, and I thought for sure I was going to have to stop. But I persevered, and accomplished my goal. The benefits outweighed any struggle that I had, and I’m glad I chose to keep going.
I know every mom will choose their own path, and I support any decision! This is just my own little pat on the back for surviving the past year as being Braden’s (partial) lifeline. I will miss the sweet cuddles and sleepy blue eyes peering up at me..
But I know it’s time to move on and let Braden grow up just a little bit more. He no longer needs me in that way and I must accept that the world is ready to have just a little piece more of my sweet Braden. Oh and sweet he is.
I love you my button button ( yes 2 buttons)

Xoxo
Your mama

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I did it!